People think about getting divorced at various times during the year. It's usually good advice for people to take their time and make sure divorce is the right decision for them. Once they reach that conclusion, then they need to decide on when to take the first step.
If pros and cons of divorce are being considered in November or December, timing can become an important factor, especially when there are children in the picture. Here are some topics to ponder when facing a possible divorce at the end of the year.
1. Delaying the filing until January or February may be best for the children. If you have children, you should think about how the stress of separation and divorce proceedings will affect their holidays. No matter what age they may be, it is often better to delay filing until later, if you can.
2. You need some time to consider the alternative processes for getting a divorce. You shouldn't assume that litigation is the way to go. In most cases, Collaborative Law is a better alternative. Mediation is also a great way to work out agreements. Do a little investigation, on line and by consulting with an attorney, before you jump in.
3. Sometimes discussing the situation with your spouse can be effective. Some couples are able to act like civilized adults and work out reasonable agreements informally at home. If you are one of those couples, that's a great start. Then you need help with the paperwork.
4. Take time to learn about your finances. In the near future, you will be living on your own and you and your soon-to-be-ex both need to have the financial means to survive. While you have time, review your living expenses, debt and income possibilities. Figure out a budget and think about how you would like assets divided.
5. Consider attorneys. Ask friends and professionals for referrals. Research on line to find out as much as you can so you can decide who you might be comfortable with. Look at the attorney's web site and blog (if he/she has one). Check directories like AVVO, Yelp and Google+ for reviews. You can also find information about Collaborative attorneys on the web sites of Collaborative Divorce Texas and the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. It helps to research before you go meet a prospective attorney.
If you have the time to think about a divorce before you file, you should carefully consider the issues listed above. Meet with several attorneys and find out who you would like to work with and what to expect. Mainly, don't rush in, Educate yourself about the possibilities. Good luck.
