Monday, April 21, 2008

Don't Try This at Home, Folks!

Lots of Dos and Don'ts are posted in blogs on various topics. A recent incident provides an illustration of yet another action to avoid. In case you haven't heard about this yet, please remember to not record and post a video on YouTube complaining about your spouse or ex-spouse or in-laws or anyone else you may be mad about. (I'm sure you're not thinking of criticising the judge -- right?) This is worse than a public spectacle -- it's a world-wide spectacle.

The incident in question is a video prepared by Tricia Walsh-Smith, who is married to a Broadway executive who had the foresight to have her sign a prenuptial agreement before their marriage. A former actress, she shows a range of emotion and impulsiveness that is impressive, in a bad way. If you haven't seen her video, you can see it here.

Needless to say, the video has been by millions around the world and it seems to create the opposite of sympathy for her. While a few people have posted favorable comments, the great majority of comments are highly critical. She went way out of bounds in disclosing personal, intimate details about their relationship. Some people might have felt sorry for her because of the way her husband appears to be forcing her out of their apartment, but even those people are likely to end up disliking her because of what she said.

More importantly, the judge for the divorce will undoubtedly see the video and it will probably unfavorably affect the outcome of the case for her. It's hard to put a good spin on the video. It removes sympathy for her and might give the judge grounds (at least in Texas and probably other states) to give her less in the property division. Any possibility that the husband might have wanted to try to be nice or help her out has disappeared.

Remember: Think before you speak and think twice before you consider making a video and publishing it somewhere.

Thanks to J. Benjamin Stevens of the South Carolina Family Law Blog and Stephen M. Worrall in the Georgia Family Law Blog for the previous posts on the video.

1 comment:

Steven Campbell said...

I saw the video, but I don't understand why did she let it go public... doesn't make sense